Building traditions are an important part of family bonding.
Many extended families have long traditions that have been passed down from
generation to generation, but it’s important for parents to find new traditions
that their children will take as their own.
This creates a bond within the family based on a unique shared
experience.
When my oldest daughter first started Trick or Treating on
Halloween, I realized she was coming home with far more candy than she could,
or should, eat. Sure, I could have pulled some out when she wasn’t looking, but
where’s the fun in that?
Lyla All Ready to Split |
Ok, it’s totally fun sneaking some out and maybe I did that
along the way, but I also decided that she needed to split her candy with her
mom and me. After all, we were the ones hauling her around to all of the
houses, right? Didn’t we deserve a piece of the pie…I mean, Snickers?
So that’s what we did. We dumped out all of her candy on the
table between us and she picked one she wanted and then I picked one I wanted
all the way through the pile. I would make arbitrary calls, too. Like, “you can
have the pretzels. That’s a freebie.” or “I’m taking all the hard candies,
because they’re choking hazards.”
During The Split, we were talking, too. Which is your
favorite? Why do you like that flavor? Which house had the best decorations?
Which costume did you like the most?
Quinn Gets to Split with Mom |
It may be a little bit late and extend bedtime on an already
exhausting night, but we had some time together to decompress and bond. It’s
one of my favorite parts of Halloween and this year, my daughter, who is now
ten years old, said it was her favorite part. All that candy and time walking
around through the neighborhood at night with her friends and her favorite part
is splitting up the loot with her dad.
That’s a moment that makes me feel like maybe I ‘m not too horrible at
this parenting thing.
Part of the appeal of this small piece of the much bigger sugar
packed holiday for all of us is that it’s our
tradition. It’s a special time that our family shares together after spending
most of the holiday around other people. Every year, the kids know to expect parties
and costumes and running around the neighborhood to get candy and then coming
home and doing The Splits.